Ariel, mother of 1
What is the most challenging thing you have experienced in your motherhood journey?
It is the constant struggle with mum guilt.
"Why am I not producing enough milk?"
"Am I spending enough time with my baby?"
"What if my baby spends the night at my parents' and forgets about me?"
"Am I a bad mum for letting my son watch some TV so I can take a break from chasing him around the house?"
And the list goes on.
I never expected myself to struggle so much mentally because I was such an independent and motivated person prior to giving birth. I felt like I was more dependent on him (emotionally) rather than him being dependant on me. I wanted to provide everything I could for him and when I hit below my expectations, I would cry in the bathroom.
I would say I'm managing my emotions a whole lot better now. I managed to take a step back and acknowledge that I may not be the best in this motherhood thing, but I'm trying my best.
Do you have any encouraging words for the fellow mummies?
Mental health is so important. Every time a friend tells me they're expecting, I would tell them to prioritize their mental health - happy mummy, happy baby, happy husband, happy life!
Being a mother is one of the toughest jobs in the world simply because we can't just take a leave or even a medical leave anytime any day. But remember we are all in this together!
I came across this life hack: "If you find yourself lost one day, go to another mummy with a child, and you're likely to be safe."