Lynn, mother of 1
What is the biggest challenge in motherhood according to you?
The most challenging thing I've experienced ever since I became a mom is realising I am one of the not-so-lucky ones. I didn't have a village of support. In fact, I had almost no support at all till this day. My mother-in-law tried to help me as much as she could even though she was also dealing with 3 other grandkids.
I was basically on my own since Day 1. Clueless, helpless & depressed. (Plus still have to deal with insensitive people around me who made things even more difficult than it already is)
The learning curve is so steep for a new mom, I was pretty traumatised by the whole experience to be honest. My poor husband had to scramble to welcome our baby 4 weeks pre-mature + all the sleepless nights. Also, I've been a low supply mom since Day 1 as well, so that was pretty challenging to keep up.
Today, I am a stronger mom because of this experience.
What is the best advice you want to give to fellow mums?
Your baby doesn't care about what you buy, how much you can pump or how extravagant their parties are. Being present is the most important.
If you have a village of support, treasure it. If you don't, reach out for mummy support groups/form your own support group with mummies who have had similar experiences.
Detach from people who does not spark joy (even family) and focus on your own family. At the end of the day, no one else matters.